Why does my child go silent, freeze or sleep? Understanding shutdowns

The short answer

Shutdown describes an inward reduction in available speech, movement, interaction, decision-making or energy during overwhelm. A child may hide, become still, answer slowly, use fewer words, be unable to start moving or need prolonged rest. They may still hear and notice what happens, so protect privacy and do not discuss them as though they are absent. Reduce questions, instructions, sensory input and observation; keep communication, water, toilet and a safe exit available. Do not force speech or movement to test whether they can respond. Shutdown is descriptive, not a diagnosis. New unresponsiveness, collapse, unusual weakness, breathing change, seizure-like movement or a marked departure from the child's normal pattern needs urgent medical assessment.

• Shutdown may reduce outward response without reducing inner distress.
• Speech, movement and decisions can become unevenly available.
• Keep connection predictable and low-demand rather than withdrawing support.
• Protect the child from public discussion, filming and forced interaction.
• Treat new or medically concerning unresponsiveness as a health issue.