Why does my child need to know exactly what happens next?

The short answer

Predictability reduces the amount an autistic child must infer, hold in mind and prepare for. A small change can alter the whole expected sequence, especially when the child also has to manage sensory uncertainty, unclear language or anxiety. Support does not require promising that nothing will change. Say what is known, mark what is uncertain, show the order of events and give the child a reliable response when plans move. Build flexibility through small supported variations when the child is regulated, not through surprise or the deliberate removal of helpful routines.

• Predictability can free capacity for participation rather than create rigidity.
• The child may be responding to uncertainty, not the objective size of a change.
• Honest plans should distinguish fixed, likely and unknown information.
• Visual support works only when adults keep it accurate and available.
• Flexibility grows best from safety, practice and a reliable recovery plan.