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Behaviour translation sheet
Use this sheet after a difficult moment has passed. Choose one incident and record what you know before adding any interpretation. You are looking for possibilities and patterns, not trying to prove why your child behaved in a particular way.
| Step | What to consider | Your notes |
|---|---|---|
| 1. What happened | Describe what you saw and heard. Avoid labels such as rude, lazy or attention-seeking. | |
| 2. The ten minutes before | Where were you? What was your child doing? What changed or was asked of them? | |
| 3. Physical needs | Could tiredness, hunger, thirst, pain, illness or needing the toilet have contributed? | |
| 4. Other pressures | Consider noise, light, clothing, other people, communication, uncertainty, transitions and the difficulty of the task. | |
| 5. What happened afterwards | Did the incident lead to more space, attention, escape from a task, access to something or a quieter setting? | |
| 6. A possible explanation | Write one or two possibilities. Leave room for being wrong and avoid making a judgement about your child's character. | |
| 7. One change to try | Choose a small adjustment to the lead-up, the environment or the way the request is made. |